A wise person once said: “It’s better to fail than fail to try”. But as humans, our fear of failure is often paralyzing. A fear of failing is generally what stands in the way of us achieving our personal or career-related goals. It’s possible that we’ve been humiliated by past failures, or we’ve tried something new and didn’t succeed. Whatever the reason, though, it’s necessary for us to gain the courage to dust ourselves off and try again. After all, when we’re left with either the choice to try and fail, or the choice to not try at all, failure is always the better option.
Why Are We So Afraid Of Failure?
Having a fear of failing is something that can stem from multiple avenues. For most, it starts with school. In school, you’re taught that if you don’t have the right answer the first time, you will receive a failing grade. It’s embedded in your life from a young age, and your brain is taught to associate failing with negative emotions.
Other times, we fear failure because of past trauma. Past traumas can be both from your childhood or adult life. For example, if you gave a presentation to a potential client and it ended poorly, you may fear attempting another sales pitch. Alternatively, maybe you had parents or siblings that weren’t supportive after you didn’t do something right the first time. Either way, failing is commonly associated with negative feelings from a young age. This is why it’s imperative to try and change your perception of failing.
Changing Your Perception Of Failure
In order to achieve your goals, you must learn to change your perception of failure. Since oftentimes failing is associated with negative emotions, it can be challenging to overcome the fear of failing. However, if you can retrain your mind to look at challenges as an opportunity, rather than worrying about the threat of failing, you will start to see the term ‘fail’ in a more positive light.
You can ultimately change your perception of failure by small exposures to it. If you can train your brain to believe failure is positive, you’ll start being able to set larger goals for yourself. Retraining your brain is no easy feat, but with small doses of failure, you’re more likely to see it as ‘an attempt to try’ rather than a ‘fail’.
There Is No Effort Without Error
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” – Theodore Roosevelt
So if you’re left with a challenge, it’s always better to try and fail then to not try at all.
About Roy Murad (edited from https://RoyMurad.ca/)
Roy Murad is a father, husband, business advisor, investor, consummate entrepreneur, and advocate for new business ventures. Over the course of 35 years, Roy Murad has amassed a wealth of experience from building businesses, guiding companies, and identifying strong investment opportunities – all while nurturing a thriving family. Now, he looks to share his valuable experience with everyone who desires to live a balanced and successful life.
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